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The official #StopTheBeautyMadness blog is your go-to source for the most compelling media on the subject. We curate what is popular as well as lesser known media that needs to reach a wider audience. 

Body Hair Is Natural, Not the Pits

Posted By: Lisa Meade

Who decides what parts of our body are beautiful and what parts are not? The body has hair in a variety of places. Within today's body image standards, smooth baby-like hairless bodies are deemed beautiful and many will go to extremes to keep their bodies that way. But what if we found body hair acceptable or even beautiful? One photographer used this question to find the answer within his photos.

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Is Your Inner Critic Born From Fear?

Posted By: Lisa Meade

Everyone of us has that inner critic. That voice that seems to taunt and badger us about our short comings, reminds us of our not good enoughs, and emphasizes all our flaws. Finding a way to silence this voice is a big challenge faced by many. Perhaps the way to deflate this voice is in understanding from where it comes from. Could it be fear? Could we be fearful that we can't be perfect, fear we could be beautiful and brilliant, fear we are enough?

A Simple - But Not Easy- Antidote To Negative Body Image

Author: Lynn Shattuck
 

If you have ever hated your body, you might recognize this voice.

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What Works For You?

Posted By: Lisa Meade

What would you say if someone asked you, "What works for you to make you feel good about your body?" We all know what makes us feel bad. In fact, study's show that almost 100% of us have one negative body image thought a day! So let's start a new list; a body positive list! Have a look at this article and see what works for you. Maybe you will come up with a few more to add to the list!

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Sometimes We Fake Until We Make It

Posted By: Lisa Meade

I have raised 3 daughters and 2 sons. I believe I have done my best as a mom. Was I perfect? No. Are there things I have learned over time that changed my ways from child to child? Yes. Still, I am aware of so many things that have positively impacted my children's lives. For the sake of this blog post, I want to focus on my daughters. All three are quite unique and amazing! (Ok, so I have an opinion and a bias, but they truly are!)

I was a fat mom. I was fat before I had my kids and afterwards. My weight, for various reasons, 

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Do I Look Fat in This? A Definitive Answer

By Robin Rice

Say she is getting dressed—she being any woman in your life—assessing herself in the mirror.

Say she turns to you.

Already you know what is coming. Already you know you are in a lose-lose proposition.

In an instant you assess her mood, the time of day, the event she is preparing for. You contemplate answering the question to come, then not answering. You look for an exit—a non-obvious exit. With none found, you try to find a way into a joke or attempt to create a distraction.

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Moms, Daughters And Photoshop

Posted By: Lisa Meade

How do we as mothers keep our body image wounds from hurting our daughter's body acceptance. In a world where beauty is valued above most anything else, it is hard. Knowing we are our daughter's first and most influential role model, how do we model body acceptance of our own bodies? In this article one mom explores this struggle and brings her awareness that her relationship with her body will hugely influence her daughters perspective.

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Fat Shamed Into Risky Behavior

Posted By: Lisa Meade

Apparently this is quickly becoming a behavior of many larger figured women. They are putting their health and safety aside for the chance for intimacy often without any kind of protection, for fear of being rejected. Unfortunately, with such a poor body image, there is a belief that they are undeserving of the respect and safe practices of someone of a smaller size. How far will fat shaming go?

Fat Shamed to Death

Author: Janice Fuller-Roberts

I write an advice column for a website dedicated to sexual health and pleasure for women of color. I recently received a letter that

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Body Shame For Short Shorts

Posted By: Lisa Meade

Imagine the humiliation of having to stand in front of your class and arms at your sides while your vice principal checks the length of your shorts via "the fingertip length test". You shorts have to be longer than your fingertips can reach. When one student questioned this dress code policy and challenged the message by bringing voice to her beliefs, she was chastised even further. But let's face it, the underlying message of shorts being distracting to the male students only deepens the message that boys objectify girls.

Teen Chastised for Wearing Shorts to School Launches Anti-Shaming Protest

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She Could Have Been Shamed And Booed Off The Stage; Instead, Emma Was Honored

It takes more than standard-issue bravery to pole dance at a large size in front of a huge live audience and judges with an ugly buzzer. Emma knew what was likely. Yet her statement found a panel of judges ready to Stop The Beauty Madness. High Five to Britain's Got Talent for seeing real beauty, strength, agility, finesse, power, and heart. 

‘For you to get up there and have such

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A Room Full Of Women

Posted by: Robin Rice

I want to be in a room of women where there is no apologizing for this or that personal lack. I want to be in a room of women where we pull our last accomplishment out to show everyone as easily we might pull out a new dress we bought… and everyone ooh's and ahh's each one. I want to be in a room full of women who believe that "HER" success and victory is as wonderful as "MY" success and victory--and in fact they are one in the same. I want to be in a room full of women who are full of heart for one another. I want to be in a room full of women where I don't have to play small to be seen as humble, or play big to be seen as good enough. In short, I want to be in a room full of women where we are not playing :AT: anything… and yet there is so much play… it becomes a dance.

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Love Yourself At Size 25

VIDEO shows awesome woman in bikini on Hollywood Blvd: 'You have to love yourself from a size 25 until you get to your desired weight. You can't seek validation from others, it has to come from within.' Photo by Fox News

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A New, More Beautiful World

Posted By: Robin Rice

There comes a time when you have simply had enough. Enough of the impossible standards. Enough of the "ideal" image. Most of all, enough of the feeling of NOT ENOUGH when it comes to your own beauty. 

There also comes a time when an entire culture of women have had it. When blogs and ad campaigns and AS-IS selfie pictures start to change the rules of the game.

That time is now. That culture is this culture. 

Today, there is more than a choir singing out the truths of true beauty. There is a great groundswell and the numbers are rising daily. We are a new tribe, and we know it is time to take back the streets-OUR streets. We know that begins with lifting our self-esteem, our self-imposed standards of worth, and honoring our deepest truths about what it means to "enough."

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You Can't Buy Beauty

Posted By: Lisa Meade

The beauty industry and media and advertising world want us to believe that we need their assistance somehow in uncovering or discovering our beauty; money needs to be spent, certain actions must be made, trainers and coaches sought, gadgets bought, supplements taken, injections given, creams applied and so on. Yet, beauty is most often found in simplicity.

The simple touches of beauty surround us. They are found in the laughter you share with family and friends. The exist in the compassion you bring to your community. It twinkles in your eyes when you gaze upon a loved one. It is felt in your embrace. It is imparted in your praise. It is received in your thanks.

Beauty, true beauty, cannot be packaged or sold. It is something that lives within our essence. It grows brighter and becomes more expansive with our positive energies.

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The Ugly List Goes On

Posted by: Lisa Meade

Do you have an ugly list? Over 91% of women are dissatisfied with their body and amazingly studies show that only 5% of women have the body type that is portrayed by mass media. There seems to be this ongoing list of why we feel so badly about our body image. Hugely because of the unrealistic and unobtainable standards, for most, that seem to dictate today’s beauty definitions. What list do you have that makes up the reasons of why you may feel so bad about your body?

 

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Banning The Body Bully

Posted By: Lisa Meade

Of the many struggles a mother faces in her day, her body acceptance should not be one of them. Yet, 73% of mothers worry about their appearance on a daily basis. In this article from the TODAY SHOW this mother of five explores how regardless of all that her body does for her, her dissatisfaction in her body is a struggle. It is a stretch for her to find a kind thought about her body. Her body bully is hard to overcome! How do we learn to quiet this inner voice? How do we challenge it and feel victorious? How do we embrace the beauty of our body?

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Molding The Model

Posted By: Lisa Meade

Year after year hundreds of young women walk the runway in fashion week. The industry requires of them to have a certain gait, a certain stature and a certain frame and weight. Is the industry molding our young women to fit within this restrictive definition of beauty? Model Alliance, a non-profit labor advocacy group, is stepping forward to have positive impact on the industry and the lives of the models who walk the runway.

 

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